https://github.com/niggiover9000/Civ-V-Multiplayer-Automod does it automatically for you.

Probably better to use this:
https://steamproxy.net/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=361391109
It can be a little finicky with dll mods, and it doesn't seem to manage map scripts (although those are really easy to add yourself, just drag and drop in the map folder), but it works for me with VP, various mods that add civs, infoaddict, etc.

Worked fine for me, guess im not retarded

I have followed the instructions and I have two mods with only .xml files in them, but I can't get them to work. I even put the files in at the end of every single DLC folder's Gameplay sections and it will not work. Is there a special way you're supposed to denote the spacing between the different mod's xml files? What else could I be missing please someone help!

how do you put just a map in

This says it will affect saved games but how so? If I follow these steps and the mods are in the folder, and I load Civ V once, will that immediately corrupt all of my saves and make them unplayable even if I undo all of these steps and play normal Civ? OR will saves be fine and just not load unless the correct game condition is met - i.e. the unmodded game saves will only work once you remove the mods from the DLC folder and the modded game saves will only work if you have the mods in the DLC folder? Can someone please explain how the saved game files are affected? Thank you!

The most frustrating part is that the main reason I mod Civ is for civs.

Could this be used to make scenarios work in multiplayer?

Edit Suggestion (and help for others having issues with mods not working for some civs! ):
"create couple empty spaces right after <Gameplay>" may not be the best direction, especially when your mod is going to update pre-existing game data. This is because the top-down organization of Expansion2.Civ5Pkg determines the load order. If you have your mod code at the top, then it will load before the game loads all of the civs that were introduced or changed in BNW. Instead, you should put your <GameData>ModName.xml</GameData> etc. at the bottom of the <Gameplay></Gameplay> field .

Here's what my Expansion2.Civ5Pkg.txt looks like to use as a guide

<Gameplay>
. . .
<MapDirectory>Maps</MapDirectory>
<GameData>SuperSettler.xml</GameData>
<TextData>SuperSettler.xml</TextData>
</Gameplay>

Where the SuperSettler filenames pertain to my mod.
I shall include an example in my next comment.

I hope this helps someone else!

Here is an example for the issue I described in my adjacent post.

The Super Starter Settler mod defines a "Super Settler" as a new unit class in the mod's xml. It's a new kind of settler that has a lot of movement, extra sight, and isn't affected by terrain. The mod works by updating every civ's "start the game with UNITCLASS_SETTLER" code with "start the game with UNITCLASS_SUPERSETTLER". In-game, it results in your starting settler being the Super Settler instead of a generic 2-movement settler.

However, when I put my <GameData>SuperSettler.xml</GameData> at the TOP of Expansion2.Civ5Pkg's <Gameplay> field, it does not update the starting-unit-defining code for the civs that are loaded later down the line. These happen to be all of the civs introduced with BNW or that have been changed with BNW, such as Venice (new civ with BNW) and France (changed in BNW from the base game).

Thus, me or my friend do not start the game with a Super Settler if we play any of these civs.